TRANS~FOR~MA~TION
Trans ~ for ~ ma ~ tion
Permanent ~ Lasting ~ Change
Shame and guilt and fear haunted my entire world. When I was down, which was a lot of the time, I would recluse and hide from everyone (except my partner at the time). When I was up, I was the social butterfly, the perfect hostess, the life of the party, successful entrepreneur... I guess thats why they call it Bi-Polar, but let me tell you… labels like that are a death sentence and a total LIE. Trauma Induced Fear.. that is what I would name it, if I had to put a name on it, but mental illness.. no. A trusted friend who helps us move from “dis-ease to ease” calls it Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder CPTSD, and that would define it as well. BUT I wasn’t born this way. Something happened that changed the synapsis in my brain. Someone put their own suffering on me and it poisoned me. And then when I reached out someone who I believed could heal me, they poisoned me even more. This is where I want to scream “screw you doctors! You swore an oath to do no harm and you stole years of my life away with the swipe of your pen. And you made money doing it.” And I felt like this for years. For a long time I hated my abuser and my doctors and everyone who stood by and watched me dying a slow death, not knowing how to help me. But what good did that do me?
It wouldn’t happen over night.. but eventually I would meet FORGIVENESS and she would rescue me from all the hate I carried in my wounded heart.
And I would have to face myself and take responsibility for my own healing.. but that was going to take a minute..
A friend of mine suggested I try seeing a grad student because that was “affordable”. What did I have to loose? So I made my appointment and I got the courage up to ask her to help me get off the drugs. I told her that I didn’t think I was crazy and that maybe, just maybe, the pills were not helping me.
She looked at me and said, “I understand. I know what will help.” I remember for a brief moment thinking I had found my “savior”. But just as soon as she said those words, she got out her script pad and started writing…. “I’m going to trade the Seroquel for Valium." she tells me. Just as serious as all shit!
I will never forgot the feeling in my body in that moment. I stood up, and placed the script on her table and walked out the door without saying a word. The lump in my throat could have choked me to death. My partner (who wasn’t my partner at the time because we were on one of our “too many to count” break-ups) had agreed to pick me up. ( When I lost my house, my car also blew up, so during this time I was without wheels). I just went blank after I walked out of her office. I started walking. And I walked 9 miles home in the rain, just praying and begging God to save me from this hell. My partner found me on the road and begged me to get in the car but I didn’t respond. I was not even in this world. My body was walking in the rain, but my Spirit was soaring above having a real heart to heart with my guides. That moment shifted everything.
From that day on I was on a path to healing, with Mother Nature as my medicine this time. I asked for guidance to find the tools to help me shed the darkness and find my way back to my child spirit, Sweet Sarah.
I had a dream one night, and I was told that when I walked through the fires I would come out a new woman and that I would be able to help lots of people heal and protect others from the same kind of suffering that I had lived. From that dream I started calling on my Warrior Spirit. She has guided me all along the journey.
I’ve had angels on earth and in the Spirit world who have brought me the tools I needed along the journey to find my way home. I found sisters who listened without judging, who cried with me and supported me in more ways than I could ever count. I found yoga on the beach, an herbalist that is my real doctor AND my sister and I reconnected with God, in sunset swims on Folly Beach and dances on the Pourhouse deck. I learned to forgive my abusers. I began to see the broken boys in them and understand why they grew up to be abusive and filled with uncontrolled rage. I learned to love and forgive him, and pray for their healing.
I fell in love with nature again on a deeper level that ever before. And just like the little girl in the woods of West Virginia, I learned to seek joy and answers to life’s struggles in the trees and plants.. I found my way back into the Sacred Circle where I became a part of nature again and She, a part of me.
Most importantly, I got to save Monet from a whole lot of suffering. I got to protect her Light from a world that wanted to stifle her, drug her in Kindergarten and shame her for her unique brand of weird and wonderful… I got to homeschool her and hire Mother Nature as her teacher. We’ve walked through some painful fires together, but every storm, every fire, every “shedding” has led us here and I tell you what… we are walkin’ on sunshine! We bear the Light and live our Truth. We follow the Sacred flow and let Spirit lead us where we are meant to BE.
I felt called to share my story … which led me to wanting to hold space for these 40 days … and in this time together, to share parts of my story and “our story” that led us to create Poes for Peace. Thank you for hearing my story. And for every person reading this who played a part in my healing… I AM who I AM because you saw the TRUE Sarah in me and helped her feel safe and loved in the world again. You helped her find her way home and you gave the whole world a gift in doing do. BECAUSE WHEN WE HEAL EACH OTHER, WE HEAL THE WORLD… And I am a warrior of love and light and I AM unstoppable!